This has been a life long struggle for me. A tendency to unconsciously judge others. Put them into boxes. Lately it has become a conscious process. This resulted in my working on the same. I write this blog to share my learnings with others who may have the same challenge. What happens when we judge others? For me, the main realisation is that , one , of course they know that you are judging them and who wants to be judged? Judging others comes in the way of forming relationships and great friendships. Judging others comes in the way of genuinely enjoying others and helping others. But why do we judge? I have struggled with this answer, and I have come to the conclusion that we judge others because we judge ourselves. We judge ourselves against an ideal which we have formed in our minds, often created by society which includes our parents, teachers and other significant others. If we want to stop judging others we need to stop judging ourselves first and accept ourselves. This is most difficult but most liberating. This is what great leaders are about.
Glad to read through. I had a similar challenge and then I realised the way to break out of this.
ReplyDeleteIt was not so simple to know it in the first instance and then found it was more difficult to practice it.
I try to be silent (inside, in my mind & heart and also outside...without uttering a word for a couple of minutes) step back, literally, and view the situation. Objectively. Then I see a clear picture and my life has been less bothersome and more smoother since then.
Glad am able to write to you today.
Warm regards,