Judging vs. Accepting

This has been a life long struggle for me. A tendency to unconsciously judge others. Put them into boxes. Lately it has become a conscious process. This resulted in my working on the same. I write this blog to share my learnings with others who may have the same challenge. What happens when we judge others? For me, the main realisation is that , one , of course they know that you are judging them and who wants to be judged? Judging others comes in the way of forming relationships and great friendships. Judging others comes in the way of genuinely enjoying others and helping others. But why do we judge? I have struggled with this answer, and I have come to the conclusion that we judge others because we judge ourselves. We judge ourselves against an ideal which we have formed in our minds, often created by society which includes our parents, teachers and other significant others. If we want to stop judging others we need to stop judging ourselves first and accept ourselves. This is most difficult but most liberating. This is what great leaders are about.